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The child has a great need for authority

Don't falter in being your child's friend!
  • Contrary to expectations, children's need for a strong, authoritative presence in their lives is growing;

  • The more fiercely the child resists the authorities (parents, teachers, etc.), the greater his need for them;

  • The authority (as well as the friend) is the bearer of trust, but it adds something equally important - it sets boundaries;

  • The child can only choose his friends, but he cannot have another parent - this is the role he needs!

Authority is not taken for granted!

Be persistent!
  • Authority will not be assumed by default, simply because of its social role (of parent, teacher, principal, police officer...), but will have to be proven as such;

  • At the same time, he will have to do it repeatedly, again and again in every situation in which the child refers to him.

  • A position of authority is hard to build but easy to destroy - it's a daily battle.

Authority responds to provocations...

Show respect!
  • ...with respect for the child's personality;

  • ...with patience to listen to it;

  • ...and if he decides, NOT to comply with the child's opinion;

  • ...with an explanation of why it acts in a certain way.

Authority sets a good example!

Speak through your behavior!
  • Authority not only explains its behavior and decisions, but also supports them with deeds;

  • It is not correct to demand of your child things that you do not do yourself, especially if the argument is "It's good for you!" (sports, reading books, less time on the phone/TV, computer).

Authority sets limits!

Don't be afraid to take responsibility for your decisions!
  • Rules are necessary in every area of human life - from building a strong individuality to fitting in well in society;

  • The lack of rules and boundaries increases anxiety in children and can seriously complicate their adaptation and relationships;

  • Children cannot be responsible for the decisions they make until a certain age, this responsibility rests with the parents;

  • Free spirit and a sense of responsibility are built through making rules, not breaking them.

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